The online sites that shame adulterers
Getting caught is usually the last thing on our minds when we’re deep in the throes of lust or in the hunt for a new lover, but it’s always there. And it should be because all it will take is one little thing, like when I said I was going to a restaurant my hub knew was closed. If I hadn’t gone past and saw that it was closed for myself, I would have probably dug my own grave talking about how good the nachos were that there was no way in hell we could have ordered.
I think about getting caught all the time, which is why I wrote a book about how to avoid just that. I did that because there are people out there who wouldn’t only mark you with a scarlet letter, they’d seek to digitally tar and feather you.
A fan, wanderingman78, from my email list thought this would make an interesting story, and after looking into it, I agree.
So, how bad can it get?
Have a look at exposehomewreckers.com to find out. Here’s what their “about the site” page says –
We’re here to help victims of infidelity spread the word about mistresses, male sluts and other types of homewrecker. Join our anti-infidelity community and help stop cheaters by reporting gossip about liars and rumors of infidelity, share your story of a homewrecker ruined relationship, warn others of local homewreckers and sluts, and offer support to victims of unfaithful partners.
To make sure no one is confused, they provide this helpful definition –
What is a Homewrecker? Homewrecker (also referred to as home-wrecker; home wrecker) is defined as a person who is blamed for the breakup of a longterm relationship, especially a marriage or family, expecially due to having engaged in an affair with one member of a couple. Example of homewrecker used in a sentence: “she was accused of being a homewrecker.”
If you’re featured on their site, this is how you’ll be portrayed –
Then there are the comments –
And here’s a list of other sites doing the same thing –
Of course, it never goes wrong –
And when it does go wrong, they’re ready to be oh so helpful –
If you are ever in this situation, it appears there are a couple of things you can do, but I doubt if there’s truth to the accusation that it will be removed. These two sites RemoveReports.com and ReputationStars.com appear to be able to help, but again, they will likely only broker the removal of misinformation. And they won’t do it for free.
Here are more removal services –
When you cheat, you’re walking on a tightrope without a safety net on the best of days, and we all realize that to some extent or other. In Hawthorne’s time, being marked with a scarlett letter would have been the ultimate humiliation because a woman wouldn’t have anywhere to go.
Today, you can go where ever you want and your scarlett letter will follow you, and needlessly ruin your reputation. Evidence of your adultery could show up in google searches related to job applications, or future relationships, forever haunting you, whether it’s merited or not.
For some reason, many people turn to the bible when they are looking for retribution, but completely forget what Jesus said to the adulteress who was about to be stoned.
And if you don’t have the money to fight back, you’ll likely wear your digital scarlett letter forever.
© Teresa J Conway, 2021
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Exported from Medium on April 8, 2021.